Sterling quote provided below by Cypher (Will Smith). Fears. We’ve all got them. I know I’ve got my fair share. I want to conquer fears. In this post, I’d like to talk about only two of them though, my biggest ones. My fear of flying. My fear of public speaking. I’m pretty sure there would be only a select few who don’t suffer from either of these two demons.
To able to conquer fear I’ll use these two as examples but the solution I’ll provide here can be used for anything. I haven’t fully moved past these fears yet, but I’ve been working on overcoming them for years and I’ve made some great progress. I think some fear may always remain, however it’s not the debilitating fear that was there before. So I’d like to share my secret and hopefully help some people make a stand and over theirs.
“Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist. That is near insanity Kitai. Do not misunderstand me, danger is very real, but fear is a choice. We are all telling ourselves a story and that day mine changed.”
Fear of Flying
I’ve been burdened with the fear of flying since I was 17 and flew to England from Australia. I remember the exact moment. I was flying from Brunei to Dubai and midway we hit some unbelievable turbulence; the kind where people sort of gasp and scream. Ever since then, I found getting on planes extremely difficult; to the point where a couple of days out from a flight I would be getting queasy thinking about it.
In Australia, flight times are only 3 hours max and we have one of the best safety records in the world, if not, the best. Still though, I couldn’t convince myself that everything was going to be alright. I went to the doctor and he prescribed Valium. However, it never really had the desired effect. I read a few “Get over the fear of flying books” but again not much came out of it.
They say this fear comes from a lack of control which I believe to be quite true. I undertook some flying lessons, doing the whole “face your fears” that kind of thing. I have to admit I wasn’t nearly as bad in a tiny Cessna than I usually was in a commercial flight. I could see a lot more and have my hands on the steering wheel. Present also, of course, was a trained pilot. Which is backwards really because the odds of are far more stacked against you in smaller planes. That being the average people that die divided by the average number of people who don’t. So you could imagine the amount of people every day who “survive” a commercial flight far outweighs the ones that survive small planes and compare how many people die in each. But still it didn’t matter. I couldn’t fly.
Then one day, and just by chance as well, I found this one little secret that had a dramatic impact. But first the other vice.
Fear of Public Speaking
I’ve always had this. Who hasn’t? All throughout high school and university I used to dread speaking in public. Weddings were the worst. It’s strange though because as I’m trying to become an actor I never really had a problem being onstage pretending to be someone else. I needed to conquer this fear though. The hardest for me is when I have to speak being myself. I actually get the same symptoms again like my fear of flying. It seems I’m thinking about that speech or presentation a few days out and I start to get all clammy and nervous.
I’ve been to a few courses about this one. The professionals say that you have to do it a couple of times and it gets easier. I’m calling bullshit on that one. For me, it used to get worse because I’d stammer and get all red faced. So the next time I knew I had to talk I’d be thinking about how terrible the last time was and then, yep, the next time was even worse again. Before the presentation or speech, I would try to convince my self that no matter what happens everything is going to be alright. Such as:
- Everyone else in the class has to do it and they’re just as nervous
- Who cares what other people think
- Just stand and deliver, what really is there to worry about?
- Even if I forget what I’m talking about or stuff up, I can easily just say excuse me and find my place again
- Fake it before I make it, as in just act confident and they confidence will eventually come
- I’d say to myself that I know my stuff, I know what to do, I have back-up plans, so there’s nothing to worry about.
And none worked until I found this.
I found the solution inadvertently. From another post, I mention a product I used that could increase motivation. As a by-product as well though I started to feel I could deal with day to day squabbles much more easier. At first I thought “Ah! Didn’t expect or really need this to happen but great.” My motivation was up, I was getting what I wanted done a lot sooner and easier, and my focus and clarity of thought was sky high.
But……..I had to fly home not that long ago for one reason or another and when booking flights I noticed I wasn’t anxious. It happened without my even realizing. Again not that long ago, I had to do an engagement party speech because I was best man, the old tight chest, want to get the hell out of there feelings were not present.
Nootropics, that’s my answer. Commonly now known as smart drugs which are naturally found in the food we eat and are considered safe. First come across by Russian scientists, who have isolated the chemicals that for years have unknowingly helped us by certain foods we’ve consumed. Like I said I started taking them for motivation and focus. In the process though I’ve removed my fear and social anxiety. They do this by giving your brain a boost that allows clearer thinking, which in turn makes you interpret any situation with confidence and transparency.
Let’s talk about each though. They’re both a natural chemical and what is the brain made up of? Chemicals. So change the chemical balance for the better and your mood changes with it.
A peptide, Noopept can be considered a Racetam molecule. Which in English means a natural kind of protein/amino acid that is synthesized into a smart drug. It all gets a bit techncial. However, it is considered to be 1000 times stronger than other of its kind and personally I find the best. It is a mighty anti-oxidant and has good penetration when it comes to the blood-brain barrier. Below is the molecular structure, showing that it’s got to be good.
For me it has:
- Improved focus (I type and study a lot)
- Improved memory (Trying to be an actor involves line learning)
- Removed fear and anxiety (Flying and public speaking)
- Amplified motivation that I have to keep from bouncing off the walls
- Helped with talking to people in intense social situations (a.k.a crowds!)
With this one, it’s all about a nutrient called choline which is a B vitamin or whereabouts. With Alpha GPC again, bit technical. However, it does great stuff for the brain with phrases like “Fantastic blood-brain barrier penetration.” So good for the brain that it has potential as treatment for Dementia and Alzheimers. I read on the Nootrico website (a Nootropic vendor) is a great stack to Noopept. But more about Nootrico later.
For me it has:
- Again improved focus (again because I type and study a lot)
- Again improved memory (again because I’m trying to be an actor involves line learning)
- Definitely removed fear and anxiety (Flying and public speaking)
- And amplified motivation so much I accidentally dance at inappropriate times (trams & trains)
- And helped with talking to people in intense social situations (a.k.a crowds again!)
Where can I find Nootropics?
Where can you find Nootropics to conquer fears? I recommend Nootrico. I like it on their About Us page how they say they test each batch for contaminants. I need that peace of mind. They’re affordable and don’t muck around with deliveries. I do suggest though you check your own countries policy on importing tablets and the like, some countries can get a little touchy about it. This company is based in the U.S.
If you have any other questions feel free to check out their FAQ page. They really do give a good run down on the technical side of things where I sort of drag the chain a little. In no time though you’re going to be like Will Smith’s Cypher as well saying “Ha!! Fear is not real!!!”
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Cheers and enjoy MCM’s Rohan.